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Just One Buddy

Yesterday I wrote a post for our Facebook and Instagram pages about sending Lu off to her first day of school. It was definitely a heartfelt purge after I had sobbed all the way home and to be honest I’m still a LITTLE teary...I’m pulling it together now though (haha!1). Basically, I just wrote about how hard it is for us parents to send our kids off for the first day, how extra hard it is when our kids have “extra” whatever’s, how this year she really is going to be challenged - but these challenges are well within her grasp to conquer and how I am praying for just one buddy for her.  What kind of surprised me was how many moms wrote me and texted me that they were crying just as hard over that post as I had been.  Parents with kids with extras and typical kids too.  So it made me think.  It doesn‘t matter what your kids circumstance is.  ALL of us are praying for just ONE GOOD BUDDY to show up for our babies.  To (as I said in the post) wait for them on the stairs and on the playground etc, to listen to them and have patience when they talk.  To really care.  But heres the thing.  I was saying to The Husband last night, its not just at school that our kids can feel left out or anxious.  Its the in between times.  Waiting for practice or rehearsal to start, waiting to get picked up after an activity.  Those are also the times that can be a gut punch to kids who feel alone.  And honestly for us parents too.  I went to my first PTO meeting yesterday.  We are brand new at this school.  I really want to get involved, but I was totally nervous walking in not knowing what to expect.  Being “the new kid” and hoping for a buddy.  Thankfully it turned out that I knew plenty of people that were there and it was great...but things like that just remind me that grown ups are immune from feeling left out and nervous.  I want to be the person who looks for the person who needs a friend.  To offer the seat beside me to the person who’s looking for one.  To smile warmly when someone looks nervous walking through the door.  To BE AN EXAMPLE for my girls on HOW to be the buddy.  With all of the messages I kept getting yesterday (and today) it just kept making me think how much our kids follow our example as grown ups.  I’m writing songs about inclusion and being yourself aNd being the good friend....but am I practicing what I am preaching?  Our kids are going to learn WAY more from the way that we are living our lives than from the things we tell them to do.  Its hard for me to be this person all of the time.  I’m not really an introvert, but I do kind of get lost in my own head and my own thoughts.  Its a conscious choice to do what our song ”Be The One” says and to ”look for the kid (or grown up!) that could use a friend.”  BUT its so so so important to me that my kids are that kid.  And I sincerely want to treat people the way I want to be treated.  So I am trying.  And I hope that we can all try to make that effort to be the one, be the good buddy and to set the example for our kids this year.  

Chicken Pox and Kindergarten Graduation

     Unbelievably, with what has to be the worst timing ever, Vi has come down with Chicken Pox.  I am completely blown away by this because she was vaccinated and I honestly didnt think that kids got them any more.  Welp.  Turns out, they do.  Just to a lesser degree than WE did and apparently you dont rub your kids on other kids to infect them anymore ”like in the olden days when my mom was a kid” as Vi has been telling people.  She is handling it like a caged lion.  She‘s not itchy or uncomfortable in the least - and for that I am obviously happy, but she is contagious and cant go anywhere....and Kindergarten graduation is TOMORROW.  And dance recitals, last days of school and all the year end fun that goes along with it.  She doesn’t seem too bummed out about the actual graduation ceremony but she is upset about missing the last couple days of school.  I’m probably more upset about it all than she is. 

     The Husband and I just got back from an awesome trip (kid-less for the first REAL time) and I have felt behind and unable to get caught up this whole week.  As all parents know, this time of the year is absolute madness.  And now on top of it, we are diseased.  Insert tear gushing emoji.  Then this morning as I was trying to figure out where to start my mom sent me a text to check in., and gave me two little words that made me cry and also have helped put me at a place closer to calm.  God Knows.  

     God Knows.  He does.  He knows that I am not a fan of this timing.  That I am freaking out about all the stuff that needs to get done, events that need to happen.  All of it.  And yet for whatever reason, we have been “blessed” with the Chicken Pox.  What the heck???  But here’s the thing. I choose to trust Him.  I choose to trust that His plans are always good,, that His timing is perfect, that He’s got it all under control and that this is what He wants to happen.  Its not about what I want.  Maybe its about what we NEED.  I honestly have no idea what the lesson is going to be here...big or small.  But I’m trying to relax and let it go and realize that in the grand scheme of things, its not that big of a deal.  That God knows.  And He‘s got this.  

     I‘ve been working on a new song....as usual I have the chorus and now I’m just waiting for the verses to come.  But I’m going to share it anyway because it goes along with this day and this “whatever”.  These Little Lessons.

     https://soundcloud.com/theprettycrazies/give-me-your-strength-chorus

     I’m going to take the kids to the Dr. tomorrow before we would be heading to school...maybe a miracle will happen over night and the pox will be off our house.  Maybe not.  I dont know.  But God Knows.  I hope that you can find those two little words encouraging for you too....for whatever you need them for today.

xoxo

     

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